{"id":5329,"date":"2023-01-17T13:58:47","date_gmt":"2023-01-17T06:58:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/nn.ntt.edu.vn\/?p=5329"},"modified":"2024-10-26T15:57:14","modified_gmt":"2024-10-26T08:57:14","slug":"phong-tuc-hon-nhan-doc-dao-cua-nhat-ban-thoi-heian","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/nn.ntt.edu.vn\/tin-tuc\/phong-tuc-hon-nhan-doc-dao-cua-nhat-ban-thoi-heian\/","title":{"rendered":"[B\u00e0i vi\u1ebft song ng\u1eef] PHONG T\u1ee4C H\u00d4N NH\u00c2N \u0110\u1ed8C \u0110\u00c1O C\u1ee6A NH\u1eacT B\u1ea2N TH\u1edcI HEIAN"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Tr\u01b0\u1edbc h\u1ebft, \u0111\u1eb7c \u0111i\u1ec3m h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a th\u1eddi k\u1ef3 Heian theo ch\u1ebf \u0111\u1ed9 \u0111a th\u00ea, ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n m\u1ed9t ch\u1ed3ng v\u00e0 nhi\u1ec1u v\u1ee3, ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng c\u00f3 quy\u1ec1n l\u1ea5y th\u00eam v\u1ee3 m\u1edbi ho\u1eb7c qua l\u1ea1i v\u1edbi c\u00f4 g\u00e1i kh\u00e1c trong khi \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n ch\u00ednh th\u1ee9c. \u0110\u1eb7c \u0111i\u1ec3m n\u1ed5i b\u1eadt th\u1ee9 hai l\u00e0 h\u00ecnh th\u1ee9c r\u01b0\u1edbc con r\u1ec3 v\u1ec1 nh\u00e0 v\u1ee3 g\u1ecdi l\u00e0<em> \u201cShosekon\u201d <\/em>(Chi\u00eau t\u1ebf h\u00f4n), thay v\u00ec r\u01b0\u1edbc c\u00f4 d\u00e2u v\u1ec1 nh\u00e0 ch\u1ed3ng nh\u01b0 ng\u00e0y nay, b\u1edfi x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i Heian l\u00fac \u1ea5y l\u00e0 x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i ph\u1ee5 quy\u1ec1n, coi tr\u1ecdng \u0111\u1ecba v\u1ecb v\u00e0 quy\u1ec1n l\u1ef1c, m\u00e0 nam gi\u1edbi ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed1i t\u01b0\u1ee3ng c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u \u1ea5y \u0111\u1ec3 r\u1ea1ng danh cho gia \u0111\u00ecnh, d\u00f2ng t\u1ed9c c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. Cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 xoay quanh ch\u1ed3ng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, l\u1ec7 thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng, ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng \u0111\u00f3ng vai tr\u00f2 tr\u1ee5 c\u1ed9t trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh, con c\u00e1i \u0111\u1ec1u ph\u1ea3i theo h\u1ecd cha. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 ch\u00ednh th\u1ee9c s\u1ebd ph\u1ee5 tr\u00e1ch c\u00e1c vi\u1ec7c n\u1ed9i tr\u1ee3 trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh, qu\u1ea3n l\u00fd c\u00e1c phu nh\u00e2n kh\u00e1c c\u1ee7a ch\u1ed3ng m\u00ecnh, s\u1eafp x\u1ebfp v\u00e0 ph\u00e2n chia c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u1ea7u. Trong m\u1ed9t gia \u0111\u00ecnh, n\u1ebfu phu nh\u00e2n n\u00e0o c\u00f3 quy\u1ec1n l\u1ef1c v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ecba v\u1ecb cao, c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng qu\u1ea3n l\u00fd nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 kh\u00e1c, c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00ean k\u1ebf ho\u1ea1ch cho c\u00e1c s\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh, th\u00ec \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c xem nh\u01b0 l\u00e0 v\u1ee3 ch\u00ednh th\u1ee9c c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng \u0111\u00f3, ch\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng nh\u1ea5t thi\u1ebft ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 l\u1ea5y \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean. Do v\u1eady, ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 n\u00e0y ph\u1ea3i ch\u1ecbu tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m qu\u1ea3n l\u00fd m\u1ecdi vi\u1ec7c trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh. Trong cung \u0111\u00ecnh, c\u00e1c qu\u00fd t\u1ed9c nam c\u00f3 \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng ph\u00f3ng t\u00fang c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 qua l\u1ea1i v\u1edbi r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u c\u00f4 g\u00e1i, nh\u01b0ng nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi cam k\u1ebft ch\u00ednh th\u1ee9c v\u1edbi h\u1ecd ch\u1ec9 kho\u1ea3ng 2 \u0111\u1ebfn 3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi. Gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 \u1edf Trung Qu\u1ed1c th\u1eddi \u1ea5y, khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng c\u00f3 th\u00eam ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1edbi, gi\u1eefa nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng xung \u0111\u1ed9t, ghen t\u1ecb l\u1eabn nhau, th\u1eadm ch\u00ed c\u00f2n m\u01b0u h\u1ea1i nhau.<\/p>\n<p>Nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n th\u01b0\u1eddng kh\u00e1 s\u1edbm, n\u1eef gi\u1edbi kho\u1ea3ng t\u1eeb 13 tu\u1ed5i v\u00e0 nam gi\u1edbi kho\u1ea3ng t\u1eeb 15 tu\u1ed5i tr\u1edf l\u00ean \u0111\u00e3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng, trong gi\u1edbi qu\u00fd t\u1ed9c \u0111\u1ed9 tu\u1ed5i c\u00f2n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 s\u1edbm h\u01a1n, h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng qu\u00e1 coi tr\u1ecdng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 tu\u1ed5i t\u00e1c c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng, b\u1edfi c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n ch\u1ec9 mang t\u00ednh ch\u1ea5t ch\u00ednh tr\u1ecb, gi\u1edbi c\u1ea7m quy\u1ec1n g\u1ea3 con cho nhau ch\u1ec9 nh\u1eb1m \u0111\u1ec3 gia t\u0103ng quy\u1ec1n l\u1ef1c v\u00e0 c\u1ee7ng c\u1ed1 th\u00eam \u0111\u1ecba v\u1ecb c\u1ee7a d\u00f2ng t\u1ed9c trong tri\u1ec1u \u0111\u00ecnh. Tuy nhi\u00ean ngo\u00e0i nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n s\u1eafp \u0111\u1eb7t ra, c\u0169ng c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n xu\u1ea5t ph\u00e1t t\u1eeb tinh y\u00eau \u0111\u00f4i l\u1ee9a, h\u1ecd y\u00eau nhau ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh r\u1ed3i m\u1edbi \u0111\u1ebfn v\u1edbi nhau, v\u00e0 th\u1eadm ch\u00ed c\u00f2n nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ef1 ch\u1ea5p thu\u1eadn t\u1eeb ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 ch\u00ednh th\u1ee9c, l\u00fd do l\u00e0 b\u1edfi gi\u1edbi qu\u00fd t\u1ed9c \u0111\u1ec1u l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi gi\u00e0u c\u00f3 v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 t\u00e0i ch\u00ednh \u0111\u1ed9c l\u1eadp, cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd kh\u00e1 t\u1ef1 do tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i, k\u1ebft h\u00f4n c\u0169ng d\u1ef1a tr\u00ean t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m l\u00e0 ch\u1ee7 y\u1ebfu., ch\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i k\u1ebft h\u00f4n v\u00ec kinh t\u1ebf, n\u1ebfu c\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 k\u1ebft h\u00f4n v\u1ec1 m\u1eb7t ch\u00ednh tr\u1ecb.<\/p>\n<p>H\u00f4n nh\u00e2n l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n tr\u1ecdng \u0111\u1ea1i c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1eddi ng\u01b0\u1eddi, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi n\u1eef gi\u1edbi qu\u00fd t\u1ed9c, ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c gia \u0111\u00ecnh c\u1ea9n th\u1eadn l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn v\u00e0 t\u1ed5 ch\u1ee9c l\u1ec5 ra m\u1eaft linh \u0111\u00ecnh. V\u1ecb h\u00f4n phu c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd c\u0169ng c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i th\u00f4ng qua s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd c\u1ee7a cha m\u1eb9, \u00f4ng ba n\u1ed9i ngo\u1ea1i, c\u00f4 ch\u00fa, anh ch\u1ecb em trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh,&#8230;m\u1edbi ti\u1ebfn t\u1edbi h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n. Do \u0111\u00f3, n\u1ebfu \u0111\u1ed1i t\u01b0\u1ee3ng kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c gia \u0111\u00ecnh ch\u1ea5p thu\u1eadn th\u00ec c\u00f4 g\u00e1i kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ph\u00e9p l\u1ea5y l\u00e0m ch\u1ed3ng, v\u00e0 c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 chuy\u1ec7n b\u1ea5t ch\u1ea5p s\u1ef1 ph\u1ea3n \u0111\u1ed1i m\u00e0 ki\u00ean quy\u1ebft ti\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ebfn h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n. M\u1ed9t \u0111\u1eb7c tr\u01b0ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n n\u1eefa m\u00e0 ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 \u1edf t\u1ea7ng l\u1edbp qu\u00fd t\u1ed9c th\u1eddi n\u00e0y, \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi th\u00e0nh v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng h\u1ecd lu\u00f4n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c mai m\u1ed1i, \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00e2n trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh, h\u1ecd h\u00e0ng,&#8230; th\u1eadm ch\u00ed l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u1ea7u trong nh\u00e0. Qu\u00e1 tr\u00ecnh d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng h\u1ec1 d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng, b\u1edfi v\u00ec n\u1eef gi\u1edbi qu\u00fd t\u1ed9c kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ed9 di\u1ec7n c\u00f4ng khai, h\u1ecd lu\u00f4n ph\u1ea3i che d\u1ea5u khu\u00f4n m\u1eb7t m\u00ecnh, n\u00ean nam gi\u1edbi t\u00ecm th\u1ea5y ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p \u0111\u00f4i khi ch\u1ec9 nh\u1edd nh\u1eefng \u00e1nh nh\u00ecn tho\u00e1ng qua t\u1eeb v\u00f3c d\u00e1ng, m\u00e1i t\u00f3c, trang ph\u1ee5c, \u0111i\u1ec7u b\u1ed9 hay \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n ch\u1ec9 nh\u1edd m\u00f9i h\u01b0\u01a1ng,&#8230; ho\u1eb7c th\u1eadm ch\u00ed ch\u1ec9 qua l\u1eddi \u0111\u1ed3n \u0111\u1ea1i c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi xung quanh c\u00f4 g\u00e1i. Khi c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u00f4ng tin v\u1ec1 c\u00f4 g\u00e1i, ch\u00e0ng trai s\u1ebd g\u1eedi th\u01b0 t\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ebfn, n\u1ebfu nh\u1eadn l\u1ea1i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u01b0 \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd g\u1eb7p m\u1eb7t, th\u00ec m\u1edbi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1ebfn ph\u00f2ng c\u00f4 g\u00e1i m\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u01a1ng m\u1ebfn v\u00e0o ban \u0111\u00eam. N\u1ebfu ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 v\u1ee3, tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi g\u1eedi th\u01b0 cho c\u00f4 g\u00e1i kh\u00e1c ph\u1ea3i h\u1ecfi \u00fd ki\u1ebfn c\u1ee7a v\u1ee3 m\u00ecnh xem c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u1ea5p thu\u1eadn kh\u00f4ng, v\u00e0 n\u1ebfu \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1edbi ch\u1ecdn ng\u00e0y t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1ec3 t\u00ecm \u0111\u1ebfn c\u00f4 g\u00e1i. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a r\u1eb1ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 v\u1ee3 kh\u00f4ng t\u1ef1 \u00fd quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh c\u00f4 g\u00e1i ti\u1ebfp theo m\u00ecnh mu\u1ed1n l\u1ea5y l\u00e0m v\u1ee3, m\u00e0 ph\u1ea3i c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ef1 cho ph\u00e9p t\u1eeb c\u00e1c ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 kh\u00e1c. Sau khi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c cho ph\u00e9p v\u00e0 ch\u1ecdn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ng\u00e0y gi\u1edd t\u1ed1t, ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng s\u1ebd \u0111\u1ebfn \u1edf c\u00f9ng c\u00f4 g\u00e1i m\u1ed9t \u0111\u00eam, s\u00e1ng h\u00f4m sau khi th\u1ee9c d\u1eady c\u1ea3 hai th\u01b0\u1eddng h\u00e1t h\u1ecdc \u0111\u1ecdc th\u01a1 cho nhau nghe, v\u00e0 sau \u0111\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng s\u1ebd \u0111\u1ebfn g\u1eb7p c\u00f4 g\u00e1i trong ba \u0111\u00eam li\u00ean ti\u1ebfp. V\u00e0o ng\u00e0y th\u1ee9 ba c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i ch\u00ednh th\u1ee9c tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng sau khi c\u1ea3 hai c\u00f9ng th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n nghi th\u1ee9c Roken no Shiki, ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 l\u1ec5 ra m\u1eaft (L\u1ed9 hi\u1ec3n nghi) v\u00e0 nghi th\u1ee9c Mikayo no Mochi no Shiki (Tam nh\u1eadt d\u1ea1 b\u00ednh nghi), l\u00e0 l\u1ec5 \u0103n b\u00e1nh Mochi v\u00e0o \u0111\u00eam ng\u00e0y th\u1ee9 ba.<\/p>\n<p>V\u1ec1 ph\u00eda n\u1eef gi\u1edbi qu\u00fd t\u1ed9c, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t l\u00e0 c\u00f4ng ch\u00faa hay con g\u00e1i qu\u00fd t\u1ed9c, nhan s\u1eafc v\u00e0 t\u00e0i n\u0103ng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1ed3n \u0111\u1ea1i qua cha v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00e2n trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh, ho\u1eb7c nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u1ea7u, b\u00e0 nh\u0169 m\u1eabu ra b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i. L\u00fac \u1ea5y c\u00f2n c\u00f3 c\u1ee5m t\u1eeb \u201cShiso no Reijo\u201d (Th\u00e2m song l\u1ec7nh n\u01b0\u01a1ng) \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u1ec9 nh\u1eefng ti\u1ec3u th\u01b0 con nh\u00e0 quy\u1ec1n qu\u00fd s\u1ed1ng \u1ea9n m\u00ecnh \u1edf c\u0103n ph\u00f2ng ph\u00eda sau dinh th\u1ef1 c\u1ee7a gia \u0111\u00ecnh. H\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng nh\u00ecn th\u1ea5y khu\u00f4n m\u1eb7t c\u1ee7a cha v\u00e0 anh em trai c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh cho \u0111\u1ebfn tu\u1ed5i c\u1eadp k\u00ea, \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c gia \u0111\u00ecnh nu\u00f4i d\u1ea1y chu \u0111\u00e1o, kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ec3 ti\u1ebfp x\u00fac v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1ea1, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t l\u00e0 nam gi\u1edbi. Th\u1eadm ch\u00ed khi mu\u1ed1n ra ngo\u00e0i h\u1ecd c\u0169ng ph\u1ea3i di chuy\u1ec3n b\u1eb1ng ki\u1ec7u ho\u1eb7c xe b\u00f2, ch\u1ec9 ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u1ea7u v\u00e0 nh\u0169 m\u1eabu m\u1edbi l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi ti\u1ebfp x\u00fac v\u1edbi c\u00f4 g\u00e1i nhi\u1ec1u nh\u1ea5t, h\u1ecd c\u0169ng th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean ti\u1ebfp x\u00fac v\u1edbi nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u01a1n, n\u00ean n\u1eafm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nhi\u1ec1u th\u00f4ng tin h\u01a1n, ch\u00ednh h\u1ecd l\u00e0 c\u1ea7u n\u1ed1i trung gian \u0111\u01b0a h\u00ecnh \u1ea3nh c\u00f4 g\u00e1i \u0111\u1ebfn ph\u00e1i nam. Nam gi\u1edbi nh\u1edd v\u1eady m\u1edbi bi\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c danh t\u00ednh c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 g\u00e1i, r\u1ed3i m\u1edbi g\u1eedi th\u01b0 t\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ebfn, l\u00e1 th\u01b0 c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i th\u00f4ng qua s\u1ef1 ki\u1ec3m tra c\u1ee7a c\u00e1c c\u00e1c phu nh\u00e2n trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh v\u00e0 nh\u0169 m\u1eabu tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi ch\u00ednh th\u1ee9c trao \u0111\u1ebfn tay c\u00f4 g\u00e1i. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef n\u00e0y s\u1ebd ki\u1ec3m tra xem v\u0103n phong l\u00e1 th\u01b0 nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o, kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng waka c\u00f3 \u0111i\u00eau luy\u1ec7n hay kh\u00f4ng, ch\u1eef c\u00f3 \u0111\u1eb9p kh\u00f4ng, xem \u0111\u1ecba v\u1ecb t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch c\u00f3 ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p v\u1edbi c\u00f4 g\u00e1i hay kh\u00f4ng, ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng n\u00e0y li\u1ec7u c\u00f3 tri\u1ec3n v\u1ecdng th\u0103ng ti\u1ebfn trong s\u1ef1 nghi\u1ec7p hay kh\u00f4ng,&#8230; n\u1ebfu k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 t\u1ed1t th\u00ec l\u00e1 th\u01b0 m\u1edbi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c trao t\u1eadn tay c\u00f4 g\u00e1i. Do v\u1eady, tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi ti\u1ebfn t\u1edbi h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n c\u1ea3 nam gi\u1edbi v\u00e0 n\u1eef gi\u1edbi ph\u1ea3i tr\u1ea3i qua nhi\u1ec1u \u201cth\u1ee7 t\u1ee5c\u201d kh\u00e1 ph\u1ee9c t\u1ea1p. M\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u1eefa l\u00e0 trong x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i qu\u00fd t\u1ed9c l\u00fac \u1ea5y, ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng tr\u00e1nh m\u1eb7t tr\u1ef1c ti\u1ebfp v\u1edbi nam gi\u1edbi v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi xung quanh, cho n\u00ean hi\u1ebfm khi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u00f9ng th\u1ebf h\u1ec7 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 quen bi\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u1edbi c\u00f4 g\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed3ng trang l\u1ee9a, do v\u1eady m\u00e0 s\u1ef1 ch\u00eanh l\u1ec7ch v\u1ec1 tu\u1ed5i t\u00e1c c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng qu\u00e1 hi\u1ebfm v\u00e0o th\u1eddi n\u00e0y.<\/p>\n<p>Nam gi\u1edbi khi nghe n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 m\u1ed9t c\u00f4 g\u00e1i n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3, h\u1ecd t\u00ecm m\u1ecdi c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ec3 nh\u00ecn th\u1ea5y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00f4 g\u00e1i, sau \u0111\u00f3 n\u1ebfu th\u1ea5y th\u00edch th\u00ec h\u1ecd g\u1eedi th\u01b0 c\u1ea7u h\u00f4n. C\u00f4 g\u00e1i sau khi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u00f4ng qua m\u1ecdi s\u1ef1 cho ph\u00e9p t\u1eeb gia \u0111\u00ecnh th\u01b0 g\u1eedi th\u01b0 \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd, trong ba \u0111\u00eam li\u00ean ti\u1ebfp\u00a0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng li\u00ean t\u1ee5c qua l\u1ea1i v\u1edbi c\u00f4 g\u00e1i \u1ea5y, th\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u cho th\u1ea5y ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng \u0111\u00e3 s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng cho m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n. Trong kho\u1ea3ng th\u1eddi gian n\u00e0y, c\u00f4 g\u00e1i kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c cho ph\u00e9p ti\u1ebfp m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng kh\u00e1c, kh\u00f4ng tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi th\u01b0 t\u1eeb c\u1ee7a b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 ai n\u1eefa. M\u1ed9t c\u00f4 g\u00e1i \u0111ang trong giai \u0111o\u1ea1n t\u00ecm hi\u1ec3u y\u00eau \u0111\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng, tr\u01b0\u1edbc c\u1eeda ph\u00f2ng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u1eafm m\u1ed9t ng\u1ecdn \u0111u\u1ed1c trong v\u00f2ng ba \u0111\u00eam, \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u00e0ng trai kh\u00e1c bi\u1ebft m\u00e0 n\u00e9 tr\u00e1nh. \u0110\u00e2y v\u1eeba l\u00e0 d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u cho th\u1ea5y c\u00f4 g\u00e1i l\u00e0 hoa \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 ch\u1ee7, v\u1eeba l\u00e0\u00a0 m\u1ed9t phong t\u1ee5c th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n \u01b0\u1edbc nguy\u1ec7n c\u1ee7a ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 vi\u00ean m\u00e3n trong h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n. V\u00e0o \u0111\u00eam ng\u00e0y th\u1ee9 ba, c\u1ea3 hai c\u00f9ng nhau \u0103n b\u00e1nh mochi, v\u00e0 th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n nghi l\u1ec5 Roken (l\u1ec5 ra m\u1eaft) cha m\u1eb9, h\u1ecd h\u00e0ng v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi quen c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 g\u00e1i v\u00e0 t\u1ed5 ch\u1ee9c m\u1ed9t b\u1eefa y\u1ebfn ti\u1ec7c. H\u00f4n nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn t\u1eeb \u0111\u00e2y.<\/p>\n<p>Nam gi\u1edbi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u1ea5y th\u00eam nhi\u1ec1u v\u1ee3 nh\u01b0ng ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ed1ng chung v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 ch\u00ednh th\u1ee9c, ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 ch\u00ednh th\u1ee9c \u1edf \u0111\u00e2y kh\u00f4ng nh\u1ea5t thi\u1ebft ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean, m\u00e0 l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ecba v\u1ecb v\u00e0 quy\u1ec1n l\u1ef1c cao nh\u1ea5t trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh, ho\u1eb7c l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c giao m\u1ecdi quy\u1ec1n qu\u1ea3n l\u00fd v\u00e0 quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh \u0111\u00f3. \u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 c\u1ea7n ph\u00e2n bi\u1ec7t v\u1ee3 ch\u00ednh v\u00e0 v\u1ee3 l\u1ebd, ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 qua l\u1ea1i v\u1edbi nhi\u1ec1u c\u00f4 g\u00e1i nh\u01b0ng anh ta ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ed1ng v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 ch\u00ednh th\u1ee9c. Phong t\u1ee5c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n n\u00e0y l\u00fac b\u1ea5y gi\u1edd g\u1ecdi l\u00e0 \u201cTsumadoi Kon\u201d (Th\u00ea v\u1ea5n h\u00f4n), c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng k\u1ebft h\u00f4n v\u1edbi nhau nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng s\u1ed1ng chung v\u1edbi nhau, c\u00e1c b\u00e0 v\u1ee3 l\u1ebd s\u1ebd s\u1ed1ng \u1edf gia \u0111\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ebb c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng s\u1ebd \u0111\u1ebfn th\u0103m h\u1ecd khi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ef1 cho ph\u00e9p c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 ch\u00ednh th\u1ee9c, v\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c th\u0103m vi\u1ebfng ph\u1ea3i coi ng\u00e0y gi\u1edd t\u1ed1t, \u0111\u1ed3ng th\u1eddi c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i tr\u00e1nh nh\u1eefng ng\u00e0y gi\u1edd v\u00e0 h\u01b0\u1edbng \u0111i c\u1ea5m k\u1ef5. Ki\u1ec3u h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n n\u00e0y cho ph\u00e9p c\u1ea3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 l\u1eabn ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tho\u00e1t kh\u1ecfi v\u00f2ng r\u00e0ng bu\u1ed9c c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n. M\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch \u0111\u1ec3 th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n nhu c\u1ea7u th\u1ec3 x\u00e1c h\u01a1n l\u00e0 xu\u1ea5t ph\u00e1t t\u1eeb t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, ch\u00ednh phong t\u1ee5c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n c\u00f3 ph\u1ea7n \u201cph\u00f3ng kho\u00e1ng\u201d n\u00e0y \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i v\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c xem nh\u01b0 chuy\u1ec7n b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng trong x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i qu\u00fd t\u1ed9c giai \u0111o\u1ea1n n\u00e0y.<\/p>\n<p>Nh\u1eadt b\u1ea3n l\u00fac \u1ea5y v\u1eabn l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i theo ch\u1ebf \u0111\u1ed9 ph\u1ee5 h\u1ec7 gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 Trung Qu\u1ed1c, d\u00f9 r\u1eb1ng c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n xu\u1ea5t ph\u00e1t t\u1eeb t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng sau h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n \u0111\u1ec1u ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1eb7t l\u1ee3i \u00edch c\u1ee7a c\u1ea3 d\u00f2ng t\u1ed9c l\u00ean h\u00e0ng \u0111\u1ea7u, th\u1ebf h\u1ec7 h\u1eadu du\u1ec7 c\u0169ng \u0111\u1ec1u ph\u1ea3i l\u1ea5y h\u1ecd cha. Nam gi\u1edbi gi\u1eef vai tr\u00f2 quy\u1ec1n l\u1ef1c nh\u1ea5t trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh, h\u1ecd lu\u00f4n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c coi tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 \u01b0u ti\u00ean h\u01a1n ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef, t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd lu\u00f4n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1ec1 cao v\u00e0 h\u01b0\u1edbng \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ef1 th\u0103ng quan ti\u1ebfn ch\u1ee9c.<\/p>\n<p>Ths Tr\u1ea7n Th\u1ecb Hu\u1ec7<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Tr\u01b0\u1edbc h\u1ebft, \u0111\u1eb7c \u0111i\u1ec3m h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a th\u1eddi k\u1ef3 Heian theo ch\u1ebf \u0111\u1ed9 \u0111a th\u00ea, ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n m\u1ed9t ch\u1ed3ng v\u00e0 nhi\u1ec1u v\u1ee3, ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng c\u00f3 quy\u1ec1n l\u1ea5y th\u00eam v\u1ee3 m\u1edbi ho\u1eb7c qua l\u1ea1i v\u1edbi c\u00f4 g\u00e1i kh\u00e1c trong khi \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n ch\u00ednh th\u1ee9c. \u0110\u1eb7c \u0111i\u1ec3m n\u1ed5i b\u1eadt th\u1ee9 hai l\u00e0 h\u00ecnh&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":13,"featured_media":5334,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[87,130,103,64],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5329","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-chinh-quy","category-clb-tieng-nhat-han","category-nganh-dong-phuong-hoc","category-news"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/nn.ntt.edu.vn\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5329","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/nn.ntt.edu.vn\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/nn.ntt.edu.vn\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nn.ntt.edu.vn\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/13"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nn.ntt.edu.vn\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5329"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/nn.ntt.edu.vn\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5329\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":9620,"href":"https:\/\/nn.ntt.edu.vn\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5329\/revisions\/9620"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nn.ntt.edu.vn\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/5334"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/nn.ntt.edu.vn\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5329"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nn.ntt.edu.vn\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5329"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nn.ntt.edu.vn\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5329"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}